Ivan Steele

In the context of life challenges and radical changes, such as impeding marriage, divorce, and separation, your challenge is twofold:

1. To be aware of what is happening around you as it is (in a legal and practical sense), and not as you would like it or wish it to be, and
2. To apply the same awareness to the many narratives you spin about yourself, and the events and people in your life.
Both of these goals can be achieved through the practice of radical HONESTY or CANDOR(TM)

When practiced regularly and with genuine kindness and curiosity, Honesty can transform THE PAIN of RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP INTO THE ENGINE OF PERSONAL GROWTH. The Honesty Revolution is your roadmap through emotional wilderness IF YOU ARE:

• Searching for the strength and courage to leave a relationship that no longer fulfills you or enter into a new relationship;
• Moving towards peace and acceptance if you were on the giving or receiving end of a breakup;
• If you had recently gone through or are suffering in the aftermath of a breakup;
• If you wish to become more self-aware and learn how to avoid the dysfunctional dynamics of the past and build lasting, loving relationships in the future.

• In addition to practical legal information, this guide holds up honesty not as an abstract ideal or a rigid moral imperative, but as a concrete roadmap toward equanimity, compassion, and fulfillment. By letting go of misleading relationship narratives and confining myths you created about yourself, your abilities, and your worth, you will learn how to make decisions in your relationships authentically, and not out of fear and insecurity that had forced you in the past to quit too early or to linger interminably. Honesty will show you when its time to check out of a stagnant or toxic relationship and make an exit you will not regret.

To practice genuine honesty, you must first be mindful of your beliefs and emotions and dare to question and realign them with your authentic self. Genuine curiosity and compassionate awareness of your emotional states and habitual patterns of thinking and reacting are preconditions for honesty. The CANDOR approach is intended to raise your self-awareness, limit self-sabotage, and to develop the critical skills and insight necessary to keep you receptive to your “truths” and to remain on the path of Honesty.

Through this class, you will access live support and tools that will empower you to free yourself from destructive behaviours and create a life of unconditional self-love and acceptance.

THE PRACTICES TAUGHT IN THIS 6-WEEK CLASS WILL TEACH YOU HOW TO:
• To move past the paralysis of fear and improve your decision-making
• FACE THE PRACTICAL AND LEGAL CHALLENGES ARISING FROM SEPARATION
• EASE THE PAIN OF LOSS, REJECTION AND GRIEF
• GET UNSTUCK FROM THE BURDENS OF GUILTY, BLAME AND SELF-JUDGMENT
• LEARN TO CONTROL OBSESSIVE AND CATASTROPHIC THINKING
• REGAIN YOUR BALANCE AND INNER PEACE AND BUILD UP YOUR EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
• IDENTIFY HARMFUL BEHAVIOURAL PATTERNS AND REPROGRAM YOUR BRAIN

What this class is not: it is not a course on how to spite your ex or to unfairly negotiate a marriage contract. These are not notes and tips of now manipulate others in your life to get what you think you want.